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A reply from CEO of J.P. Morgan to a pretty girl seeking a rich husband

 A young and pretty lady posted this on a popular forum:

Title: What should I do to marry a rich guy?

I’m going to be honest of what I’m going to say here. I’m 25 this year. I’m very pretty, have style and good taste.  I wish to marry a guy with $500k  annual salary or above.

You might say that I’m greedy, but an annual salary of $1M is considered only as middle class in New York.

My requirement is not high.  Is there anyone in this forum who has an income of $500k annual salary?  Are you all married?

I wanted to ask:  what should I do to marry rich persons like you?

Among those I’ve dated, the richest is $250k annual income, and it seems that this is my upper limit.

If someone is going to move into high cost residential area on the west of New York City Garden(?),  $250k annual income is not enough.

I’m here humbly to ask a few questions:

1) Where do most rich bachelors hang out? (Please list down the names and addresses of bars, restaurant, gym)

2) Which age group should I target?

3) Why most wives of the riches are only average-looking?  I’ve met a few girls who don’t  have looks and are not interesting,  but they are able  to marry rich guys.

4) How do you decide who can be your wife, and who can only be your girlfriend?  (my target now is to get married)

- Ms. Pretty

A philosophical reply from CEO of J.P. Morgan:

Dear Ms. Pretty,

I have read your post with great interest.  Guess there are lots of girls out there who have similar questions like yours. Please allow me to analyse your situation as a professional investor.

My annual income is more than $500k, which meets your requirement, so I hope everyone believes that I’m not wasting time here. From the standpoint of a business person, it is a bad decision to marry you. The answer is very simple, so let me explain. Put the details aside, what you’re trying to do is an exchange of “beauty” and “money” :  Person A provides beauty, and Person B pays for it, fair and square.

However, there’s a deadly problem here, your beauty will fade, but my money will not be gone without any good reason. The fact is, my income might increase from year to year,  but you can’t be prettier year after year.

Hence from the viewpoint of economics, I am an appreciation asset, and you are a depreciation asset. It’s not just normal depreciation, but exponential depreciation. If that is your only asset, your value will be much worse 10 years later.

By the terms we use in Wall Street, every trading has a position, dating with you is also a “trading position”.

If the trade value dropped we will sell it and it is not a good idea to keep it for long-term – same goes with the marriage that you wanted.   It might be cruel to say this, but in order to make a wiser decision any assets with great depreciation value will be sold or “leased”.

Anyone with over $500k annual income is not a fool;  we would only date you, but will not marry you. I would advice that you forget looking for any clues to marry a rich guy. And by the way, you could make yourself to become a rich person with $500k annual income.This has better chance than finding a rich fool.

Hope this reply helps.  If you are interested in “leasing” services, do contact me.

signed,

J.P. Morgan CEO

- The downfall of the economy has led women to resorting to advertising themselves as a business venture in hopes of  financial security. But then when you think about it marriage is like an intimate business partnership. The reply of the CEO makes a comprehensive statement on behalf of rich and powerful men. What offer you put down on the table has to be comparable to equal measure in quality. To only offer ” beauty” as an asset will entertain men temporarily. Beauty is everywhere and easily accessible. Men like women who are not only beautiful but who have a personality and intelligence. The CEO is wise enough to not risk loosing his accumulated assets to some gold digger. Instead of being the gold digger, try approaching from an entrepreneurial point of view. I believe he would be more interested in a woman, who can contribute her abilities, to build financial growth as a collaborative effort rather than seeking to only spend his money.

I would love to get feedback and opinions on this post that has gone viral. 

By – Megan T.


The Disappointment of Just Saying No!


Sometimes after work, a well – deserved drink at your local bar is just what is needed to finish the day off. As a single woman sitting at the bar alone, it tends to bring the attention of a man whether it is intentional or not.  Engaging in small talk and innocent flirtation can be entertained. But, when a man advances in such a manner that is aggressive and inappropriate, it can lead to an act of unwanted sexual harassment. Sometimes a woman just wants to enjoy a drink and the ambience surrounding her without being subjected to the prowl of a man.

The amount of men with a lack of respect and social decorum is astonishing. Women are constantly bombarded by over zealous men who don’t take no for an answer. These men continue to insist and advance with different tactics expecting the woman to surrender her decision in favor of his wishes. The repulsive actions of this kind of man can discredit the advances of an honorable gentleman.

Sadly enough, just saying “no” or “not interested” doesn’t always work. A lot of women now-a-days seem to be apprehensive on saying “no” or standing up to men for various traumatic reasons. Men choose not to listen knowing that there is no power in the word “No”. However, some men are continual offenders because they don’t realize that their behavior is wrong. This poor behavior is usually a result of negligence on behalf of the upbringing. It is up to a strong woman to stick to her guns to relay the message that his behavior is unacceptable. Remaining steadfast, actions will speak louder than words.

By- Megan T.


The Flame that Fuels our Passion

At one point or another, we find ourselves caught up in a relationship with someone who we would deem as our “Lover” or “ Booty Call”. This sort of relationship is a mutual agreement to purely indulge one another in ravenous sexual pleasure. The idea of being able to text someone at any given moment for a quick romp can be exhilarating. Sexual deprivation in an unhappy marriage can lead to the illicit affair. A fear of monogamy resorts to the sexual freedom of a lover deterring them from the pressures of a commitment. Whether they are an ex, a friend, or someone you just met; they willingly fulfill what you desire.

However, women instinctively are hard-wired to have an emotional and nurturing connection with someone. Men can transition from one sexual partner to another without qualms. Eventually this arrangement will dissipate once boredom sets in or the verge of being compromised by an emotional bond presents itself. It is a short-lived arrangement.

This lifestyle continues its accessibility through the increasing popularity of social networking via the Internet. But ultimately how fulfilling is this way of life? Are we preventing ourselves from connecting with someone on an emotional level? Are we masking our own insecurities and fears in order to avoid confronting them? We are sexually fulfilled temporarily but we are left with an abysmal void in ourselves. We make love but do not have love. It is a thirst that just can’t be quenched.

By – Megan T.


A Timing for Love

The universe has its way of bringing what we need, at the right time, when we are more open to accepting it.

The moments that we desperately search for love are usually the times that we are not prepared to find it. Instead of worrying about the future and questioning your single status; more time can be focused on attracting what we can achieve today. Feeling the need to be in a relationship or to be loved can be misconstrued for something completely different. A low self-esteem, emotional vulnerability, or depression may cause us to feel a void in ourselves; in which we assume love to be a cure to our ailment. Depending on someone else to make you feel complete causes you to lose a sense of your own identity and self-worth. Independence and happiness found on our own terms can lead to attracting someone who is in that same state of mind. Be conscious to opportunities that surround you on a daily basis and seek to achieve things that are tangible. Burdening yourself with a deadline to be married and have a family by a certain age will only prolong the search. Allow yourself to enjoy and live in the moment. When you least expect it… love will find you.

- By Megan T.


Popping Bottles for Social Lubrication

As a young, sexy, and single New Yorker; the most common activity to do is to hit the social scene hard with a stiff drink in hand.  “ Liquid Courage”, being a form of social lubrication, gives an alternative perception and behavior. Drinking alcohol plays a significant role in social interactions mostly because of the neurological effects it has on a person. It can be enjoyable while easing you into an awkward and intimidating social setting, but when we abuse this habit it can be devastating.

Dating – Negative Effects of Intoxication:

Just because you are drunk doesn’t give you permission to be an ass and demoralize someone.

Be considerate. Don’t approach and grab ass. Respect personal boundaries unless you are invited.

No one likes a sloppy drunk.

Keep the mystery. Don’t spill your guts revealing every aspect of your life. Less is more.

Someone who becomes angry/ violent are signs of a troubled and abusive person.

Excessive crying are signs of emotional/ psychological issues that are unresolved.

Alcohol should be enjoyed in moderation. When it comes to the dating scene, people tend to abuse it to compensate for something they lack. While amongst a co-ed setting, alcohol lights a fire of excitement and arouses the sexual senses. It can enable you to be bolder and free your inhibitions. However, it can lead to making the wrong decisions and perhaps participating in activities that you will later regret. It’s understandable to have a few cocktails to loosen up and have fun, but knowing your limit may save you from trouble.


Go ahead…..enjoy! Just Drink Responsibly!

By Megan T.


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