Sometimes after work, a well – deserved drink at your local bar is just what is needed to finish the day off. As a single woman sitting at the bar alone, it tends to bring the attention of a man whether it is intentional or not. Engaging in small talk and innocent flirtation can be entertained. But, when a man advances in such a manner that is aggressive and inappropriate, it can lead to an act of unwanted sexual harassment. Sometimes a woman just wants to enjoy a drink and the ambience surrounding her without being subjected to the prowl of a man.
The amount of men with a lack of respect and social decorum is astonishing. Women are constantly bombarded by over zealous men who don’t take no for an answer. These men continue to insist and advance with different tactics expecting the woman to surrender her decision in favor of his wishes. The repulsive actions of this kind of man can discredit the advances of an honorable gentleman.
Sadly enough, just saying “no” or “not interested” doesn’t always work. A lot of women now-a-days seem to be apprehensive on saying “no” or standing up to men for various traumatic reasons. Men choose not to listen knowing that there is no power in the word “No”. However, some men are continual offenders because they don’t realize that their behavior is wrong. This poor behavior is usually a result of negligence on behalf of the upbringing. It is up to a strong woman to stick to her guns to relay the message that his behavior is unacceptable. Remaining steadfast, actions will speak louder than words.
By- Megan T.
At one point or another, we find ourselves caught up in a relationship with someone who we would deem as our “Lover” or “ Booty Call”. This sort of relationship is a mutual agreement to purely indulge one another in ravenous sexual pleasure. The idea of being able to text someone at any given moment for a quick romp can be exhilarating. Sexual deprivation in an unhappy marriage can lead to the illicit affair. A fear of monogamy resorts to the sexual freedom of a lover deterring them from the pressures of a commitment. Whether they are an ex, a friend, or someone you just met; they willingly fulfill what you desire.
However, women instinctively are hard-wired to have an emotional and nurturing connection with someone. Men can transition from one sexual partner to another without qualms. Eventually this arrangement will dissipate once boredom sets in or the verge of being compromised by an emotional bond presents itself. It is a short-lived arrangement.
This lifestyle continues its accessibility through the increasing popularity of social networking via the Internet. But ultimately how fulfilling is this way of life? Are we preventing ourselves from connecting with someone on an emotional level? Are we masking our own insecurities and fears in order to avoid confronting them? We are sexually fulfilled temporarily but we are left with an abysmal void in ourselves. We make love but do not have love. It is a thirst that just can’t be quenched.
By – Megan T.
The universe has its way of bringing what we need, at the right time, when we are more open to accepting it.
The moments that we desperately search for love are usually the times that we are not prepared to find it. Instead of worrying about the future and questioning your single status; more time can be focused on attracting what we can achieve today. Feeling the need to be in a relationship or to be loved can be misconstrued for something completely different. A low self-esteem, emotional vulnerability, or depression may cause us to feel a void in ourselves; in which we assume love to be a cure to our ailment. Depending on someone else to make you feel complete causes you to lose a sense of your own identity and self-worth. Independence and happiness found on our own terms can lead to attracting someone who is in that same state of mind. Be conscious to opportunities that surround you on a daily basis and seek to achieve things that are tangible. Burdening yourself with a deadline to be married and have a family by a certain age will only prolong the search. Allow yourself to enjoy and live in the moment. When you least expect it… love will find you.
- By Megan T.