Boxing Match: Simplicity of Men VS. Complexity of Women
It’s a battle of the sexes. Men bob and weave when it comes to the overly dramatic and emotional knockouts. Women do a one-two combo while nagging that men don’t listen or care. It’s toe-to-toe, we go the distance and roll with the punches, but no matter how many rounds you go at it, the fact is that we will never fully understand how the opposite sex works. As human beings, we are all created equally with the same emotions. Yet we are designed for different purposes. We differ in how we communicate those emotions. We throw in the towel, we can only compromise and come to a mutual understanding that caters to how we function as a whole.
Men are conquerors and providers, who like to keep things simplistic and drama- free. They get easily frustrated when women assume that they will understand and think like a woman does. Men have a hard time processing complex emotional data, so they resort to going to their man caves to maul over the intense download they are receiving. Men are usually raised to be strong and independent. They don’t go around discussing their feelings to the boys, so it’s hard to have them open up in a relationship.
Men are ego driven, who pride themselves on the things they have achieved. Men are driven by respect and admiration where woman are more driven by emotional connections. Insecurities are just the same for men, however, they usually don’t like to admit to their vulnerabilities. Men have enough pressures in their life without having to deal with the humiliation of his woman trying to fix his problems. What they need is a woman’s support and affirmation. They need to be revered as the head of the house they perceive themselves to be.
The conveyance of love is found easier through a man’s actions than through his words. Sex is psychologically the deepest proof of his love for his lover. The rush of endorphins satisfies his physical desires as well as confirms that he is desired and fulfilling to his partner. He cherishes a woman with the little deeds that are usually taken for granted. His love is by supporting her, protecting her, taking out the trash, etc. Being a good provider is his declaration of his love.
So take off the gloves, instead of sparing it out, take a step back and try to relate to how each other instinctively reacts.Taking the time to put the shoe on the other foot could help to realize the difference in perspectives. We can’t expect to read each other’s minds or force to be something we are not. The chemistry of men and woman is meant to compliment one another to compensate where the other lacks. We must listen, learn, and grow with one another to form an alliance. Saved by the bell.
By: Megan T.