“First understand and accept one self; then you will be open to accepting and understanding others.”
Some live by the “Rules of dating” that are implemented as basic guidelines to ease the process. Granted, there are some “rules” that should be remembered, but I believe, when it comes to dating there is no definitive formula that will be a success each time. When it all boils down, it is our own intuition and a natural chemistry between each other that will determine the next step. Each date should be treated in a unique way, sans a cheesy line that every other guy has learned via the culture of a Pick Up Artist. Developing loving relationships between a man and a woman takes effort not a scripted pick up technique. It involves genuine communication, mutual understanding and an open mind. It is human nature to want to be loved and accepted. Of course, each opportunity to meet a complete stranger and attempt to ask them out can be intimidating.
It is customary that a man should make the first move to ask a girl out. Well, in this day and age, it is open game to either sex to make the first move. If the opportunity presents itself and you feel a connection; I say take a chance and go for it.
There is nothing sexier than a man who is confident in him self and has the courage to risk, as individuals see as, rejection. Women want a man who will genuinely approach her and initiate a conversation that she can relate to. To find the “icebreaker”, use your atmosphere to your advantage. You are both in the same place because you have a mutual interest in something. Women don’t want to be “cat-called” or told how beautiful she is for the 10th time today. Be innovative and come up with something that is not a pick up technique. Women see right through men and the bullshit they bring to the table. Be aware that women will be sizing you up and decide within about a minute if she is attracted to you. Like blood in the water; women can sense fear. Just be yourself and go with the best intentions. Have in mind what is the worst that can happen? She may say “no” but there is a chance she may say “yes”. If you have her attention past five minutes or longer, that is a good sign to get her phone number and keep moving. Lifestyle of the City is fast-paced. It is better to leave her in mystery and wanting more than to over stay your welcome.
Just remember, if it doesn’t go well and there isn’t a mutual interest, stay positive! You do not know one another to become overly emotional or to take offense. Respect her decision and keep your head held high. You can re-play and analyze all you want how it went down. Remember the things that had a positive effect and forget the negative. Learn and grow from each encounter. The more you put yourself out there and experience dating; the easier it will be to understand what works and what will not.