The Contridiction of Friendship and Love
Finding true friends is hard to come by so what happens when you realize that you may be falling in love with your close friend???
Friend or Lover?? Friendship is a form of love and a mutual respect for one another. Either or, you obviously have to like the person in which you share common interests with. The difference between a lover and a friend is that a lover requires a romantic and sexual involvement. It gets complicated when we realize that this friend is someone you are falling in love with. How do we deal with wanting more than the friendship? Do we risk loosing that friend by unveiling the truth with the chance they may not feel the same? Do we choose one way or the other? I came across a song performed by Carolyn Dawn Johnson “Complicated”, in which I feel is a good example of expressing these emotions.
Complicated Lyrics - Performed by Carolyn Dawn Johnson When you walk into the room, I wanna find a hiding place. We used to laugh, we used to hug, the way that old friends do. But now, a smile and a touch of your hand, Just makes me come unglued. Such a contridiction, do I lie or tell the truth. Is it fact or fiction, Oh the way I feel for you. So complicated, I'm so frustrated. I wanna hold you close, I wanna push you away, I wanna make you go, I wanna make you stay. Should I say it? Should I tell you how I feel? Oh, I want you to know. But then again, I don't. It's so complicated. Oh..just when I think I'm under control. I think I finally got a grip. Another friend tells me that, My name is always on your lips. They say I'm more than just a friend, they say I must be blind. Well, I admit that I've seen you watch me from the corner of your eye. Oh, It's so confusing. I wish you'd just confess. But think of what I'd be losing, if your answer wasn't yes. So complicated I'm so frustrated, I wanna hold you close, I wanna push you away, I wanna make you go, I wanna make you stay. Should I say it, should I tell you how I feel. Oh I want you to know, but then again I don't, It's so complicated. Oh, I hate it. 'Cuz I've waited. So long for someone like you Oh, what do I do. Oh should I say it. Should I tell you how I feel. I want you to know,but then again I don't. It's so complicated.. It's so complicated.. It's so complicated. Ohh..
With each waking moment the frustration and confusion of your emotions race; leaving you to ponder if your friend has an inkling of your love for them. The best kind of relationship is originally formed from a friendship. The awkwardness of dating and getting to know a person is shortened because you have already formed a trust and bond with them. The challenge of it all is deciding whether it is worth telling your friend they are someone you have been waiting for. Each scenario is a unique case for each individual. We can ask our friends for advice or we can clue into the subtle hints they leave us acknowledging how cute we would be together. Ultimately it is a lovers’ leap. Decide whether you can live only being the friend, deal with the ramifications of the truth or end up finding the interest is mutual. It is possible to have both a friend and lover. True friends will be there for you through the ups and the downs. No matter what happens you will find out who is truly meant to be a part of your life.
Love Conquers All!
By: Megan T.
