Written from the Heart
An effective way to express yourself and to share with someone you love is through writing. Writing alleviates you from the nerves and pressure of speaking directly to them, if that is an issue you may have. Formulating words on paper prevents fumbling over your words in speech. It is a properly collected train of your thoughts put into a concise format.
Below is a letter I wrote many years ago for someone I loved. May the words written from my heart inspire the love in others.
From the day I first met you, I knew you were the one.
As my eyes locked onto yours, my heart stopped for a moment. The sudden rush of adrenaline filled my body leaving me weak at the knees. The one, who I saw only in my dreams, I knew was standing right in front of me. It was as if time stood still itself and I knew I couldn’t let this moment pass by. Overwhelmed with thoughts of a thousand emotions; both you and I were confused on our paths that we now have crossed. Nevertheless the fear of the unknown, we were about to embark on an incredible journey. With each passing day, we took our time to see things through, never skipping a beat. I only hoped the next day to be better than before. Into your eyes, I gaze with such admiration and respect. I couldn’t bare a day apart from you without gasping for air, for you are my every breath that I take in. Every kiss upon my neck and a soft touch upon my stomach, I eagerly wait for you to embrace me into your arms, only to hold me forever. You are my heart and without my heart I can not live. Truly your love is what I desire most and if it takes forever to have, then I shall wait patiently until you find your way to me, only then will my heart begin to beat again.
Another amazing way to express your love is to write music for someone. Make use of the talents that you possess to find new and innovative ways to tell someone they are loved.
Share the LOVE!!
- Megan T.
The Confidence of Courtship
Perception of Self - Confidence
In every social scenario it is expected to have some form of judgment that will be based on perception. Arriving equipped with self-assurance will prepare you for the social dynamics that awaits. Self-confidence is a strong belief in oneself and the abilities that you possess. We have a variety of qualities to offer in each new relationship we develop. To be seen in the best of light, use your strengths to your advantage while working on improving your weaknesses. The natural confidence that you feel about yourself will positively convey the image of what you want others to perceive.
Boosting your confidence can be as easy as changing the way you view yourself. Treat your body as a canvas in which you must paint the portrait that you want to see.
Ways to Boost Confidence:
- Fit Bod - Incorporating a healthier lifestyle with a diet and fitness regimen can help you feel sexier in your own body.
- New Dew – A new haircut/ color is always a nice change that should be flattering to your bone structure and skin tone.
- Dress Sharp – Update the wardrobe to a more current fashion trend. Dress fashionably in accordance to your age. Your sense of style should convey a message of who you are as an individual. Hiring a professional stylist can be helpful for a new image consultation. I can personally recommend stylist Tye Coe. http://tyecoe.com
- Good Posture – The way you carry yourself says a lot about a person. Walk with purpose while keeping the shoulders back and head held high. Feel empowered and enthusiastic.
- Pep Talk – Motivate yourself. Know your own worth. Give yourself goals to achieve and see them through. Have daily affirmations and find ways to remind yourself that you have something great to offer.
- Be Grateful – When you focus too much on what you want, the mind tends to create reasons on why you don’t deserve to have it. This leads to dwelling on your own weaknesses. Acknowledge the positive things that you have going on in your life. You would be surprised to find that you are capable of finding success if you continue to persevere.
The Signs of Confident Body Language
Be aware not only of your own body language but also of the person you are talking to. Subconsciously we pick up on subtle hints of attraction. When meeting someone for the first time, it is important to make eye contact while introducing yourself. A firm handshake is always a good sign of power and confidence. However, men should be conscious of women who are more delicate. We don’t want to treat this encounter as a business deal. Articulate and announce your presence in a confident yet non-threatening manner. The encounter should be light-hearted and flirtatious so your romantic intentions are made known. Be cautious of someone’s personal space, not everyone is comfortable being invaded too quickly. Test the comfort zone by insinuating a touch to the arm or holding their hand. If that person doesn’t pull away, it is a good sign, they have accepted you as someone they are willing to be close to.
Confidence of Selection
We all uphold to the fantasy idea of what we want. The quest for the perfect match is commendable. However, we have to be realistic that love isn’t manufactured as a custom-order. Sometimes what we want just isn’t what we need. Understanding the true nature of a person by evaluating the pros and cons that they offer will help to decide whether they are right for you or not. No one can decide that for you. Don’t compromise to be with someone just for the sake of it. Be satisfied and confident that your choice is of a natural chemistry in which you feel this person could enrich your life. If ever in doubt just follow your gut instincts.
By: Megan T.
Ladies love a man who cleans his…say what??…..
I came across this hilarious Axe commercial and couldn’t pass up the opportunity to include this in my blog. As entertaining as this YouTube video may be, it’s subliminal messaging hits home for men’s personal hygiene.
Simple Fact: Gentlemen always keep your equipment clean!
Ladies love men who clean their equipment. Wax or Trim the bush down under. I hear cleanliness is next to godliness, so give it a good scrub at least once a day. A nice wash before sex and the ladies will love you. Want the ladies coming back for more…..Keep it fresh!
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By: Megan T.
Boxing Match: Simplicity of Men VS. Complexity of Women
It’s a battle of the sexes. Men bob and weave when it comes to the overly dramatic and emotional knockouts. Women do a one-two combo while nagging that men don’t listen or care. It’s toe-to-toe, we go the distance and roll with the punches, but no matter how many rounds you go at it, the fact is that we will never fully understand how the opposite sex works. As human beings, we are all created equally with the same emotions. Yet we are designed for different purposes. We differ in how we communicate those emotions. We throw in the towel, we can only compromise and come to a mutual understanding that caters to how we function as a whole.
Men are conquerors and providers, who like to keep things simplistic and drama- free. They get easily frustrated when women assume that they will understand and think like a woman does. Men have a hard time processing complex emotional data, so they resort to going to their man caves to maul over the intense download they are receiving. Men are usually raised to be strong and independent. They don’t go around discussing their feelings to the boys, so it’s hard to have them open up in a relationship.
Men are ego driven, who pride themselves on the things they have achieved. Men are driven by respect and admiration where woman are more driven by emotional connections. Insecurities are just the same for men, however, they usually don’t like to admit to their vulnerabilities. Men have enough pressures in their life without having to deal with the humiliation of his woman trying to fix his problems. What they need is a woman’s support and affirmation. They need to be revered as the head of the house they perceive themselves to be.
The conveyance of love is found easier through a man’s actions than through his words. Sex is psychologically the deepest proof of his love for his lover. The rush of endorphins satisfies his physical desires as well as confirms that he is desired and fulfilling to his partner. He cherishes a woman with the little deeds that are usually taken for granted. His love is by supporting her, protecting her, taking out the trash, etc. Being a good provider is his declaration of his love.
So take off the gloves, instead of sparing it out, take a step back and try to relate to how each other instinctively reacts.Taking the time to put the shoe on the other foot could help to realize the difference in perspectives. We can’t expect to read each other’s minds or force to be something we are not. The chemistry of men and woman is meant to compliment one another to compensate where the other lacks. We must listen, learn, and grow with one another to form an alliance. Saved by the bell.
By: Megan T.
A reply from CEO of J.P. Morgan to a pretty girl seeking a rich husband
A young and pretty lady posted this on a popular forum:
Title: What should I do to marry a rich guy?
I’m going to be honest of what I’m going to say here. I’m 25 this year. I’m very pretty, have style and good taste. I wish to marry a guy with $500k annual salary or above.
You might say that I’m greedy, but an annual salary of $1M is considered only as middle class in New York.
My requirement is not high. Is there anyone in this forum who has an income of $500k annual salary? Are you all married?
I wanted to ask: what should I do to marry rich persons like you?
Among those I’ve dated, the richest is $250k annual income, and it seems that this is my upper limit.
If someone is going to move into high cost residential area on the west of New York City Garden(?), $250k annual income is not enough.
I’m here humbly to ask a few questions:
1) Where do most rich bachelors hang out? (Please list down the names and addresses of bars, restaurant, gym)
2) Which age group should I target?
3) Why most wives of the riches are only average-looking? I’ve met a few girls who don’t have looks and are not interesting, but they are able to marry rich guys.
4) How do you decide who can be your wife, and who can only be your girlfriend? (my target now is to get married)
- Ms. Pretty
A philosophical reply from CEO of J.P. Morgan:
Dear Ms. Pretty,
I have read your post with great interest. Guess there are lots of girls out there who have similar questions like yours. Please allow me to analyse your situation as a professional investor.
My annual income is more than $500k, which meets your requirement, so I hope everyone believes that I’m not wasting time here. From the standpoint of a business person, it is a bad decision to marry you. The answer is very simple, so let me explain. Put the details aside, what you’re trying to do is an exchange of “beauty” and “money” : Person A provides beauty, and Person B pays for it, fair and square.
However, there’s a deadly problem here, your beauty will fade, but my money will not be gone without any good reason. The fact is, my income might increase from year to year, but you can’t be prettier year after year.
Hence from the viewpoint of economics, I am an appreciation asset, and you are a depreciation asset. It’s not just normal depreciation, but exponential depreciation. If that is your only asset, your value will be much worse 10 years later.
By the terms we use in Wall Street, every trading has a position, dating with you is also a “trading position”.
If the trade value dropped we will sell it and it is not a good idea to keep it for long-term – same goes with the marriage that you wanted. It might be cruel to say this, but in order to make a wiser decision any assets with great depreciation value will be sold or “leased”.
Anyone with over $500k annual income is not a fool; we would only date you, but will not marry you. I would advice that you forget looking for any clues to marry a rich guy. And by the way, you could make yourself to become a rich person with $500k annual income.This has better chance than finding a rich fool.
Hope this reply helps. If you are interested in “leasing” services, do contact me.
signed,
J.P. Morgan CEO
- The downfall of the economy has led women to resorting to advertising themselves as a business venture in hopes of financial security. But then when you think about it marriage is like an intimate business partnership. The reply of the CEO makes a comprehensive statement on behalf of rich and powerful men. What offer you put down on the table has to be comparable to equal measure in quality. To only offer ” beauty” as an asset will entertain men temporarily. Beauty is everywhere and easily accessible. Men like women who are not only beautiful but who have a personality and intelligence. The CEO is wise enough to not risk loosing his accumulated assets to some gold digger. Instead of being the gold digger, try approaching from an entrepreneurial point of view. I believe he would be more interested in a woman, who can contribute her abilities, to build financial growth as a collaborative effort rather than seeking to only spend his money.
I would love to get feedback and opinions on this post that has gone viral.
By – Megan T.
The Disappointment of Just Saying No!
Sometimes after work, a well – deserved drink at your local bar is just what is needed to finish the day off. As a single woman sitting at the bar alone, it tends to bring the attention of a man whether it is intentional or not. Engaging in small talk and innocent flirtation can be entertained. But, when a man advances in such a manner that is aggressive and inappropriate, it can lead to an act of unwanted sexual harassment. Sometimes a woman just wants to enjoy a drink and the ambience surrounding her without being subjected to the prowl of a man.
The amount of men with a lack of respect and social decorum is astonishing. Women are constantly bombarded by over zealous men who don’t take no for an answer. These men continue to insist and advance with different tactics expecting the woman to surrender her decision in favor of his wishes. The repulsive actions of this kind of man can discredit the advances of an honorable gentleman.
Sadly enough, just saying “no” or “not interested” doesn’t always work. A lot of women now-a-days seem to be apprehensive on saying “no” or standing up to men for various traumatic reasons. Men choose not to listen knowing that there is no power in the word “No”. However, some men are continual offenders because they don’t realize that their behavior is wrong. This poor behavior is usually a result of negligence on behalf of the upbringing. It is up to a strong woman to stick to her guns to relay the message that his behavior is unacceptable. Remaining steadfast, actions will speak louder than words.
By- Megan T.
A Timing for Love
The universe has its way of bringing what we need, at the right time, when we are more open to accepting it.
The moments that we desperately search for love are usually the times that we are not prepared to find it. Instead of worrying about the future and questioning your single status; more time can be focused on attracting what we can achieve today. Feeling the need to be in a relationship or to be loved can be misconstrued for something completely different. A low self-esteem, emotional vulnerability, or depression may cause us to feel a void in ourselves; in which we assume love to be a cure to our ailment. Depending on someone else to make you feel complete causes you to lose a sense of your own identity and self-worth. Independence and happiness found on our own terms can lead to attracting someone who is in that same state of mind. Be conscious to opportunities that surround you on a daily basis and seek to achieve things that are tangible. Burdening yourself with a deadline to be married and have a family by a certain age will only prolong the search. Allow yourself to enjoy and live in the moment. When you least expect it… love will find you.
- By Megan T.
First Impressions can make or break
Asking someone out is probably the most nerve-racking part of dating. That doesn’t mean the effort stops when they say yes. First impressions can make or break the connections that were kindled in the first place. The most crucial part of dating is the first date. It is essentially the interview process of one another.
When asking a woman where she would like to go for the initial date, have in mind a few options of places that you would like to take her. As a man, it is important to show your date that you are prepared, confident and decisive. Women sometimes can be very indecisive and may prefer a man to take charge and lead the way. It is important to be on time or even a little early to check out the place of your choice. Out of respect for your date, inform them if you are running late so they are not left waiting in the dark.
When on your date, it may involve alcohol, so be sure to keep tabs on how much you are drinking. Nobody likes a sloppy drunk. Also, alcohol tends to be like a truth serum, it shows who you really are and lowers your inhibitions. Live in the moment by actually listening to your date and let her know that you are here to get to know her. There may be plenty of distractions while on a date, so don’t get caught. There is nothing worse than when the person you came with is too busy checking out someone else.
The conversation should be like a good volleyball match. Taking turns listening and talking. The conversation shouldn’t be all about yourself. Keep things friendly and light. Don’t get overly intrusive by talking about previous relationships and religion. Trying to impress your date by being someone who you are not will only hurt you in the long run. Be honest and upfront with her and she will respect you for that. Pay attention to her body language. It will help you to have an idea of what she is feeling at the moment. If you don’t know about body language, I recommend either using Google or check out a book at your nearest Barnes and Nobles to brush up on it.
The end of the date can be tricky. Sometimes you don’t know what the other person is thinking or feeling about you. In the city, you never really know how the date is going to end. Just let things flow naturally. Don’t expect just because you paid for the dinner and drinks that she owes you a sexual favor in return. Of course, you may both be feeling a bit frisky and decide to mutually indulge in one another. But, if you are considering in pursuing a serious relationship, it is advisable to resist the temptation on the first date. Scenarios like that tend to end up being meaningless one-night stands. Not pressuring a woman to have sex shows her that you respect her and that you are willing to take the time to get to know her. A good woman is worth waiting for.
- MT
Dating takes Effort
“First understand and accept one self; then you will be open to accepting and understanding others.”
Some live by the “Rules of dating” that are implemented as basic guidelines to ease the process. Granted, there are some “rules” that should be remembered, but I believe, when it comes to dating there is no definitive formula that will be a success each time. When it all boils down, it is our own intuition and a natural chemistry between each other that will determine the next step. Each date should be treated in a unique way, sans a cheesy line that every other guy has learned via the culture of a Pick Up Artist. Developing loving relationships between a man and a woman takes effort not a scripted pick up technique. It involves genuine communication, mutual understanding and an open mind. It is human nature to want to be loved and accepted. Of course, each opportunity to meet a complete stranger and attempt to ask them out can be intimidating.
The Approach:
It is customary that a man should make the first move to ask a girl out. Well, in this day and age, it is open game to either sex to make the first move. If the opportunity presents itself and you feel a connection; I say take a chance and go for it.
There is nothing sexier than a man who is confident in him self and has the courage to risk, as individuals see as, rejection. Women want a man who will genuinely approach her and initiate a conversation that she can relate to. To find the “icebreaker”, use your atmosphere to your advantage. You are both in the same place because you have a mutual interest in something. Women don’t want to be “cat-called” or told how beautiful she is for the 10th time today. Be innovative and come up with something that is not a pick up technique. Women see right through men and the bullshit they bring to the table. Be aware that women will be sizing you up and decide within about a minute if she is attracted to you. Like blood in the water; women can sense fear. Just be yourself and go with the best intentions. Have in mind what is the worst that can happen? She may say “no” but there is a chance she may say “yes”. If you have her attention past five minutes or longer, that is a good sign to get her phone number and keep moving. Lifestyle of the City is fast-paced. It is better to leave her in mystery and wanting more than to over stay your welcome.
Just remember, if it doesn’t go well and there isn’t a mutual interest, stay positive! You do not know one another to become overly emotional or to take offense. Respect her decision and keep your head held high. You can re-play and analyze all you want how it went down. Remember the things that had a positive effect and forget the negative. Learn and grow from each encounter. The more you put yourself out there and experience dating; the easier it will be to understand what works and what will not.
