The Confidence of Courtship
Perception of Self - Confidence
In every social scenario it is expected to have some form of judgment that will be based on perception. Arriving equipped with self-assurance will prepare you for the social dynamics that awaits. Self-confidence is a strong belief in oneself and the abilities that you possess. We have a variety of qualities to offer in each new relationship we develop. To be seen in the best of light, use your strengths to your advantage while working on improving your weaknesses. The natural confidence that you feel about yourself will positively convey the image of what you want others to perceive.
Boosting your confidence can be as easy as changing the way you view yourself. Treat your body as a canvas in which you must paint the portrait that you want to see.
Ways to Boost Confidence:
- Fit Bod - Incorporating a healthier lifestyle with a diet and fitness regimen can help you feel sexier in your own body.
- New Dew – A new haircut/ color is always a nice change that should be flattering to your bone structure and skin tone.
- Dress Sharp – Update the wardrobe to a more current fashion trend. Dress fashionably in accordance to your age. Your sense of style should convey a message of who you are as an individual. Hiring a professional stylist can be helpful for a new image consultation. I can personally recommend stylist Tye Coe. http://tyecoe.com
- Good Posture – The way you carry yourself says a lot about a person. Walk with purpose while keeping the shoulders back and head held high. Feel empowered and enthusiastic.
- Pep Talk – Motivate yourself. Know your own worth. Give yourself goals to achieve and see them through. Have daily affirmations and find ways to remind yourself that you have something great to offer.
- Be Grateful – When you focus too much on what you want, the mind tends to create reasons on why you don’t deserve to have it. This leads to dwelling on your own weaknesses. Acknowledge the positive things that you have going on in your life. You would be surprised to find that you are capable of finding success if you continue to persevere.
The Signs of Confident Body Language
Be aware not only of your own body language but also of the person you are talking to. Subconsciously we pick up on subtle hints of attraction. When meeting someone for the first time, it is important to make eye contact while introducing yourself. A firm handshake is always a good sign of power and confidence. However, men should be conscious of women who are more delicate. We don’t want to treat this encounter as a business deal. Articulate and announce your presence in a confident yet non-threatening manner. The encounter should be light-hearted and flirtatious so your romantic intentions are made known. Be cautious of someone’s personal space, not everyone is comfortable being invaded too quickly. Test the comfort zone by insinuating a touch to the arm or holding their hand. If that person doesn’t pull away, it is a good sign, they have accepted you as someone they are willing to be close to.
Confidence of Selection
We all uphold to the fantasy idea of what we want. The quest for the perfect match is commendable. However, we have to be realistic that love isn’t manufactured as a custom-order. Sometimes what we want just isn’t what we need. Understanding the true nature of a person by evaluating the pros and cons that they offer will help to decide whether they are right for you or not. No one can decide that for you. Don’t compromise to be with someone just for the sake of it. Be satisfied and confident that your choice is of a natural chemistry in which you feel this person could enrich your life. If ever in doubt just follow your gut instincts.
By: Megan T.
